I have had a very good couple of days. I have felt fine. Today I am a bit depressed and trying not to slip back into deep depression. As I have said before, I have been trying to find homes for some of my dogs because of not being able to feed or take care of them like we should. We have four here. Two of them were my sisters who passed away. I have put up ads and put ads in the paper for months and noone has been interested. Today out of t he blue someone called. I am happy and sad at the same time. I have grown attached to my sister's dogs. I have a decision to make. Struggle trying to feed them or let them go. My brother in law who lives here with me does not help with the dogs. It is insane!! Those were his wife's dogs. The one dog's name is Billy. He is 12 years old and follows me everywhere. He is a golden retreiver mix. He isnt real good with kids and he defenetly isnt a playful guy. He loves me so this is very hard. I know that if something happens and I have to leave here, I may have to put him to sleep due to his age. I feel this is his last chance to get a home. I am so upset. I didnt expect to get a phone call. The other dog's name is Phantom. He is a Jack russel/ chiuaua mix. He is 6 years old. defenetly not good with kids. In fact he has snapped at mine a few times. He goes after my other dogs. My opinion is t hat he should be put down. There is a reason why he is like that. : ( I will try to explain this.
There was a dark side to my sister that I never said to anyone. She was very possessive and controlling and she always had to keep people and animals almost in a cage. This side of her I did not want to talk about until now. She never let me have any kids. She would take control over the care of my children to the point where they would ask her if they could have something. She took control of our finances (which she didnt do a very good job of) I had didnt have any friends. Everytime I would try to have a friend, she would wreck it. To get back to the dog... (sorry I am rambling) She would keep her dogs and cats in the house away from anything. I understood the cats but she wouldnt walk the dogs or anything. She would only let them out to go to the bathroom. When I offered to take the dogs for a walk, she would get angry and think I was taking them from her. The last three weeks of her life, she wasnt getting mych oxygen. She was refusing treatment. ( i didnt know this at all until after her death) Her mind wasnt working right.
She was so mean to Phantom. She would hit him with her walker when he tried to get near her. She would scream at him when things werent going right for her. She was doing the same with me and my children. ( the yelling part anyways..she didnt hit us) I tried to keep the dog away from her but she would yell that I was trying to take everything from her. We fought alot about the treatment of the dog. After that this dog has been very unstable. Unfortunelty he needs to be put down. I just dont feel it is my responsibility to do it but I will end up having to.I think some of the issues stemmed from her not being physically able to control everything. This was uncomfortable for her. She just couldnt let me take over for awhile. She needed a break and I needed my life back.
Please dont think bad thoughts about my sister. This was her dark side. She was very loving. She had a bright side as well. She had bipolar disorder so bad but refused to get treatment for it. She was laways there for me when I needed her. I loved her very much. But when she died she left not only piles of bills I was unaware of but she left alot of hurt feelings because of the way she was at the end. I forgave her and miss her. I wish that I could turn back the clock and talk things out with her. I know that is not possible so I live with the guilt of how things were between me and her at the end. Sorry for the rambling. It started out about the dogs and it ends with my sister like it always does.
The main idea of this whole thing is that I have to make this decision. I know that it is for the best that the dogs go to new homes. It will probably be best for all of us. It is just hard to let go.
When the two are gone, I will only have two left. My poodle mix and my rotty mix. I hope that I will be able to keep them. I raised them and they are wonderful dogs. I will have to post pics. I have rambled enough. I am so frustrated that my GED test scores till have not gotten back to me. UGH!!!!! I need to go on to the next step. As soon as I get those scores the education council is going to get me into school. They help get you into LPN classes given at the local hospital. I just want to get on with my life. I hate waiting. I am not patient at all.
Before I go I just want to thank a few of my friends for helping me through this. Nancy, Thank you for all the e-mails of support. I dont know what I would do without you. DB..Thank you for talking to me when I needed someone to talk to. Janie...Thank you for all your prayers (I need them) Linda..Thank you for making me smile..I also want to thank
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Christine, thank the Good Lord you past. I am happy for you. I feel bad for the doggies. I don't want to add to your stress, but please be careful who you let them go to. So many people are using dogs and cats to train pitbulls to fight. I have a little Min-pin that was a stray and I think that may be where she came from. And some times they are used for experiments. Just really check them out. Marlene
Sometimes it is really hard to make choices like that. My Cherokee go so bad that I felt like I was being mean by not putting her down. She was in a lot of pain. I feel like your family should come before the dogs. If the dog is mean it may be best to put him down instead of letting someone beat on him and treat him mean. Sorry you had to go through things like that with your sister. Sometimes we think we know someone and then something happens and we see them for who they really are. That is the way it is with my step dad. I thought he would never act like he has since my mother passed away. We can not change the past... it is already gone. Try the best you can to close the door on the hurt. Don't beat yourself up for something that you could not change. Will keep you in my prayers... your family too. Blessings, Janie
HI Christine,
Well its understandable that you cant keep all these pets. But you know Phantom may not need to be put down. In my state we have a no kill animal shelter called Noah. They rescue animals and take animals which are considered unadoptible and they rehabilitate them. That little dog isnt good with kids, but might be just fine for someone who could have just him and pay some nice attention to him. We got our kitten from the no kill animal shelter. She had a cold and different siamese markings so no one wanted her and she was going to be put to sleep. But Noah came in and rescued her, got her well and now she is ours. there are many dog rescues out there that would be happy to come out and take the dogs and find them good homes. Go online and type in "Dog rescue, your hometown, your state" and see what comes up and then just call them. Tell them your sister died and you have her dogs which are not good with your kids but which might make a good pet for a family with no children. This is reasonable and no one can fault you for this.
I think your brother in law should be responsible for the dogs and he should care for them and buy their food, not you. But if he wont, you have to just do what needs to be done and get the dogs to a shelter. I realize you are attached to the one dog, maybe you could keep that one? Dont beat yourself up over this. Tell yourself, this dog situation is going to be resolved soon. And then just dont think too much about it. Let go of the "how" Let God figure that out. Just keep a constant positive thought that this is going to be resolved and the dogs will be happy and you all will be happy.
You have some very difficult decisions to make, but I believe you will make the right ones. Your brother-in-law should take some responsibility for the care of the dogs, they are his.
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