Monday, June 2, 2008

hurt feelings

Hello all. Something really horrible happened today. I have been crying all day. The people who were living in my sister's trailor just up and left without giving me any notice. I gave them a mini van that needed some work but I gave it to them to help them out. I gave them a place to love for 400 dollars a month. They fixed the van and up and left without notice as if I was a nobody. I feel very stupid for even helping them out. I like helping people. Sometimes I think it is a weakness of mine. I did so much for them and  they repaid me by messing me over. I cried histerically. Not really because they left but because they did it behind my back. Money is real tight now. We needed that extra 400 dollars to make it. I am so terrified. I dont know what to do. I took a bath and cried. Why would someone do that to someone who helped them??? I would have at least wantd them to tell me in advance that they were leaving. The trailor needed alot of work but they knew that before they moved in. They took thier kids in the van with nowhere to live with her being pregnany with another child. I was told that they left with only a jar of peanut butter to eat for the next two days. Can you believe that?? They left all thier clothes behind and all thier toys. He said to his friend before they left  that the kids dont need friends or toys. I went into the t railor that they were staying in and it smelled like human pee. The sheets of the beds were full of pee and they had peed up dirty clothes sitting in the bathroom. Unbelievable!!! I am so hurt and worried for thier children. They have lived in the car before but this time they chose to leave.They have done this before to other people and have ran thier children all over the country with nowhere to live. How can they get away with this??  They had a roof over thier head. I am sorry that I am rambling about this but it is unbelievable. I dont usually ask  but will everyone pray for his poor children who have no stabiltity in thier lives or food or decent care. I will be ok.. I will get over this . I have atrust problem to begin with but this makes it so much worse. If it werent for everone that I have met in J-land, I would think everyone was untrustable. Thank you all...God Bless...

 

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

That is terrible. I will keep all of them and you in my prayers. Sorry they did you that way. God Bless and hugs, Janie

Anonymous said...

Christine, do you have the license plate for the van? I think I'd call Department of Family Services or something; if they are living with just a jar of peanut butter to feed the kids and living in a van, and left the place like they did (which I'm sorry they did), it seems like their children could be at risk; I wonder if you could report it for the sake of the kids; just a thought; I feel sorry for you and for the kids; you both are innocent victims of the actions of the parents; just so sad

remember, though, that you tried to help someone out; it was their choice to reject that help, but you get the blessings from God because you at least tried and remember you are a good person to try to help others; a lot of people wouldn't have, but you were compassionate enough to try to help out

betty

Anonymous said...

Aw Christine. I understand that you are so upset and If you can Inform the right people about their actions to those children then all the better. If you cannot, then you have to get that trailer cleared and cleaned and advertised asap to bring In some cash. Once you get It all sorted out and have decent people living there, paying more than 400 a month, then you can start to relax. these people made a fool of you and It Is a blessing In disguise that they have gone. Don't despair, You are almost on the right path. Love Pam xx

Anonymous said...

Some people live in such a way that they dont know whemn they are being helped ,You did your best for them and still have to clear up after them ,you cant do more ...love Jan xx      http://journals.aol.co.uk/jeadie05/Serendipity/

Anonymous said...

Wow, they sound mixed up, and perhaps had a reason to run off (legal trouble, perhaps, or?).  I agree that this does not sound safe for the children.  Are they of school age?  Something isn't right there, and it could even mean that they didn't mean anything personal against you, just that their own problems were too large to overcome?  I really don't know.  Perhaps, just perhaps, they couldn't tell you where they were headed?  

I do hope that you can find the money you need to cover your living expenses.  It can be a struggle, and I know I"m "too" nice at times, myself.  I'd rather be too nice, than too mean, though, I suppose.

You should not have been messed over.  That really sucks.  And, to leave that place with urine all over it?  UGH!  How awful.  Total disrespect.  Even if there was a medical issue, get help or something.  Yeah, I tend to try to figure out the soft sided excuses for people, too sigh.  You were screwed over, and there is also true concern about the children.  I will pray that they are safe.  Something had the parents up and run, and I doubt it was you, kind you.

Anonymous said...

I would call cps I think they need to be aware of the problem
hugs
Sherry

Anonymous said...

I would report the family to child protective services. The parents are obviously not right to have their children living in that condition to begin with and now living in a small van. I agree they should of at least had some decency to give you notice so you could of made other arrangements. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this hon. (Hugs) Indigo

Anonymous said...

For the children's sake report them BEFORE cleaning up take pictures and maybe let the social worker see it. Hun they were going to do it. Like you I tend to see the good and get hurt wjhen thhey only show the bad.